September 2011 — better attitude

We didn’t make a family goal for June, July, or August. I don’t think anyone even noticed, with the school ending, month-long vacation, school starting busy-ness. Hello September.

I really didn’t want to get out of my cozy bed this morning. Something about packing lunches and feeling like my life resembles the movie Groundhog Day. But of course, me having a bad attitude doesn’t get anyone off to school.

Parenthetically, I am a night owl who married a morning person. Seems to me, from an evolutionary standpoint, that it would have been helpful for my children to inherit his propensity to hop right up and be cheerful and productive. But, just like his beautiful brown eyes, so far we’re one for five on the morning-loving. Sam is the only one who can get himself up. The others I quite literally drag out of bed, to which I’m sure my mother would say, “what goes around comes around.”

Did you hear about some study that said it doesn’t much matter what parenting techniques you use, because how your children turn out depends mostly on who you are as parents? I don’t even care if it was a good study or not, I already know it’s true, and doesn’t it make parenting even harder? You mean I have to BE what I want them to be?

I am quite certain this works in both the long term — our values, our ethics, our faith — and in the short term — our attitude. Don’t you just hate that old saying, “If momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy”? I know some of you hate it because of the grammar, but really we hate it because it’s so true!

So I’m going to talk to my kids about having a great attitude this month, but mostly I’m going to talk to myself about it (you don’t talk to yourself?). I wish it wasn’t so much about me, but I know it is, and I can do BETTER.

This is kind of a cheater goal, because we have some fun things to look forward to this month, and that is always, always helpful from an attitude standpoint. Spring is coming (it was sunny and warm yesterday — yay!) and the kids have a week off from school, so we’re taking them on their first really big South American adventure — to Iguazu Falls and Buenos Aires, Argentina. Matt is having a very big birthday later in the month. (Help! What should I do about celebrating it?) And he is traveling to the US at the end of the month, which is always hard because he’s gone over a weekend, but we look forward to it because he brings back suitcases full of goodies!

Oh also, our sweet Carmen is coming back from maternity leave on Monday, and I know most of you don’t feel bad for me at all, but boy have I missed her! I’m sure she’s going to find the level of dirt in the house a little dismaying, but guess what? She always comes with a good attitude. And having help is definitely good for my attitude!

So all of that will help. And if you want to get on my good attitude bandwagon, here’s a little scriptural inspiration:

Wherefore, ye must press forward with a steadfastness in Christ, having a perfect brightness of hope, and a love of God and of all men. Wherefore, if ye shall press forward, feasting upon the word of Christ, and endure to the end, behold, thus saith the Father: Ye shall have eternal life. (3 Nephi 31:20, the italics are mine)


2 thoughts on “September 2011 — better attitude

  1. LCM

    At least you understand where your kids are coming from. I am more like Maria from The Sound of Music, “when you wake up, WAKE UP, it’s healthy”. However I have two lie abed family members and it’s hard for me to be sympathetic. At least Fiona and I can hang out in the wee peaceful hours together.

  2. allysha

    I could have written this. Well, the whole part about being who you want your kids to be. I have despaired at my children’s attitude these days, and then I open my mouth and listen to what comes out of it, and I despair even more! Yikes. I have a lot to work on! :)


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