With four boys and just one girl, I’m sometimes stumped by girl behavior. I ask myself frequently, “Is ____ because she’s a girl, or is this just Mary?” And in most cases, it probably doesn’t even matter. But, as a fellow girl, I do wonder (worry) about how she’s growing up and how she sees herself.
You might think a girl with lots of brothers would be a tomboy (and she might) but Mary is taking the opposite approach and embracing her inner princess. Pink, sparkly, frilly, fancy. All of that. It’s a bit of a mystery to me, since I came of age in the time of flannel shirts and birkenstocks. Goodness knows, I’m in a pretty traditional female role at the moment, and I’m far from anti-femininity, but I was pretty relieved the other day when I asked Mary, “Do you think it’s better to be smart or pretty?” and she answered smart. Whew.
I’m sure we’ll be sorting this all out for 20 years to come, and I recently read an interesting book on the subject, Cinderella Ate My Daughter. I don’t agree with all of the author’s conclusions, but she did a lot of research for this book, and it’s a good read. If you want to hear lots of details about everything from Dora the Explorer to Bratz dolls to Britney Spears and how it’s all affecting the modern girl-child, pick it up.
Does anyone else worry about this stuff?